Everbody is Right; but how can that be?
Does that statement make the hair on your neck stand up? It may, particularly if you have been in conflict recently with someone in your life. Or perhaps you have someone who is trying to drag you along through life and be perfect just” like them”
Did you know we are bombarded by 2,000,000 bits of information per second from our outside world.
2,000,000 bits per second!!!!!
This massive amount of information is received via what we hear, see, touch, smell and taste.
The human mind however, can only process 134 bits of information per second and only 7 bits of this information, plus or minus 2 bits are actually utilised.
Just imagine that you and your friend or partner are experiencing the same experience and you are both receiving 2,000,000 bits of information per second, processing 134 bits and only utilising 7 bits plus or minus 2 bits.
Good grief who is processing what?
We all process information differently depending on whether we are visual, auditory, kinesthetic or digital.
People with a visual preference, will tend to:
•Be organized, neat and well-groomed. Why? Because they want to look good. And what do they expect from you? Yes, the same thing!
•Use visualization for memory and decision making – often getting insights about something.
•Be more imaginative and may have difficulty putting their ideas in words.
•Speak faster than the general population. Why? Because they have a picture(s) in their mind and if it is a moving picture, there is a lot to tell in so little time!
•Prefer in-person interactions – to see the other person and his/her reactions.
•Want to see or be shown concepts, ideas or how something is done.
•Want to see the big picture.
•May not remember what people have said and become confused if you give them too many verbal instructions. However, if you can draw a map or picture for them, then they can see what you are saying.
•Remember faces more easily than names.
•Be distracted by visual activity and less so by noise.
People with an auditory tonal preference, will tend to:
•Be more aware of subtle change in the tone of your voice and be more responsive to certain tones of voice.
•Perceive and represent sequences and are able to remember directions or instructions more easily.
•Learn by listening and asking questions.
•Enjoy discussions and prefer to communicate through spoken language rather than the written word.
•Talk through problems and like to have someone available to serve as a sounding board for their ideas.
•Need to be heard.
•Be easily distracted by noise.
People with a kinesthetic preference, will tend to:
•Speak slower than the general population. Why? Because they need time to get in touch with how they feel about the topic.
•Be more sensitive to their bodies and their feelings and respond to physical rewards and touching.
•Learn by doing, moving or touching.
•Dress and groom themselves more for comfort than how they look.
•Make decisions based on their feelings.
•Stand closer to other people than those with a visual preference – to feel the other person’s energy, whereas the person with a visual preference will stand back to see more of the other person (body language, etc.).
Digital is devoid of the senses. People with an auditory digital preference, will tend to:
•Have a need to make sense of the world, to figure things out, to understand.
•Talk to themselves and carry on conversations with you in their mind. Often they will say they remember discussing something with you, when you actually did not have the conversation. They did, however, in their mind!
•Learn by working things out in their mind.
•Not to be spontaneous, as they like to think things through.
•Have logic play a key role in the decision process as do facts and figures.
•Memorize by steps, procedures, sequences.
The information we receive is directly related to how we are wired to process our outside world. It is not about being right or wrong; it is about understanding and accepting how we and others perceive and function in the world.
Having a clearer understanding of how different our models of the world are, helped me to stop judging others, let go of being right and trying to change others. It gave me freedom to be me and to stop worrying about what others thought of me.
I hope it helps you too!
Tracey Carmichael – is Life Coach and Author of Happy Mind Formula – Your Action Plan to Mental and Physical Wellbeing. During Tracey’s 15 years as a Natural Therapist she discovered a missing link between depression and happiness. Through her own personal experience she discovered a formula to break this debilitating condition. With a holistic approach to food, movement and exercise she was able to create positive change in her own life and in the lives of her clients. Her passion is to share this message with the world to help people understand that they do have the power to move from depression and happiness. www.happymindformula.com
Tracey can help you to communicate effectively and change or embrace your world to experience it in the best possible way for you. For more information on coaching packages email firstname.lastname@example.org