Are You a Mind Reader?
Do you have someone in your life that causes you to feel upset, angry or worthless just by the way they look at you, the tone of voice they use or the mood they appear to be in?
This used to happen to me all the time too. It was like I had a big sign on my forehead that read Press My Buttons. Often I would feel angry, upset or humiliated by looks, comments, tones of voice and moods from other people.
I knew what they meant, I knew what the under current was.
Or so I thought.
Then I read about Mind Reading which is - the concept that a person can know what other people are feeling or thinking – what their internal experiences are – without verifying it with them.
Another AHA moment for me. Through learned behaviours, patterns and of course the good old low self esteem; what I thought were negative and nasty gestures toward me, actually were not.
For many years I put myself through lots of unnecessary pain and agony. Fortunately I was able to change this pattern very easily by simply asking a few questions each time I was in this emotional state?
Awareness is so powerful, isn’t it?
I was now aware that when someone was “making” me feel bad, I had absolute control over my internal state. All I had to do was ask a few basic questions such as …
Is everything OK?
Have I done something to upset you?
Is there anything you want to share with me?
HOT TIP – don’t say “what’s up YOUR bum?” (that won’t help)
Nine times out of ten, the look, the tone, the mood had nothing to with me at all. I have shortened my times of pain and anxiety dramatically by implementing this strategy.
I hope it helps you too!!
BUT………….. what if it was directed at me?
Then that is great too. The lines of communication are now open and you can discuss the issue or problem and come to some resolve.
Have you had any experiences of mind reading that you would like to share?